There’s a common phenomenon that happens between couples. At some point, because of unconscious insecurity, past experiences, and emotional baggage, one partner—often without realizing it—starts to create tension or friction to protect themselves. Some examples:
Delaying text replies
Making the partner jealous
Sending mixed signals
Push–pull
Acting distant to test interest
Flirting with others for validation
Creating unnecessary arguments to feel power
Withdrawing affection to provoke a reaction
While some of these might seem playful or even “normal” early in dating, they eventually trigger anxiety, damage trust, and can destroy the relationship.
A healthy, lasting relationship requires complete trust, nothing less.
Here’s what to check:
Make sure you’re both on the same page about being exclusive.
Don’t play emotional games once you are.
If something makes you uncomfortable, communicate calmly and directly. Don’t punish, attack, or mirror her negative tone, just express clearly what you want and how you feel.
And one important warning: if you’re not yet exclusive, setting heavy boundaries too soon will make her reel in terror and the connection collapse. Wait until commitment is mutual, then lead the relationship with calm clarity. If you are not, keep your cool for now.
Remember, this is your relationship, and as the man, you create the closeness. A woman is naturally chaotic. You bring direction, safety, and steadiness.
And one last thing—every time you feel a negative emotion—frustration, anger, sadness, jealousy—that’s your cue. It means something inside you needs attention. It’s not a sign to react; it’s a signal to NOT ACT ON THTA EMOTIONS. Do something constructive. Turn the emotion into motion.
If you are exclusive, I recommend you to check out Relationship Toolbox.