She Said She's Leaving The Country For Good
She Said She's Leaving The Country For Good
I remember two months after the breakup she agreed to meet me. I was excited but kept my cool. We went to dinner. I had hope, maybe we could talk things through.
Then it hit: she said, “By the way, I’m done here. I’ve decided to start travelling around Asia until I find a new home.”
On the outside I stayed composed, but inside it felt like a nuclear explosion. I knew if she left for another country, getting back together would become much more difficult.
I didn’t comment on it. Dinner ended, I walked her outside, and very sadly she took a cab and left.
In the end she did leave and moved abroad, and three months later we actually got back together.
I’ll tell you the full story when we talk, but the point I want you to take away is this: this process is extremely emotional and feels unfair. I often see men break, cry, and beg at moments like this.
I’m not discounting the intensity or emotional weight of what you’re going through. But if you want to fix things, you have to accept that it’s going to be hard and you cannot show your emotions to her.
You must stick to the plan and remember, your real enemy is not her or the breakup. It’s the insecurity, the thoughts that she’s irreplaceable, and putting her on a pedestal.
There is no room to act weak. It’s okay to feel the pain. Release like I show you in Code Red, but keep moving.
Every time I reconciled, they had no idea what I went through. They thought “he’s probably cool.” Every time they heard from me I looked better than the time before only if they knew the apocalyptic storm inside of me.
Be strong. Your emotions and what you’re going through are not her concern.
When she told me she was leaving the country, I reframed every thought one by one.
She's gonna be miserable
She's gonna regret it
I'll find someone better soon
Complete list is in the program
I knew this had to be mechanical and strategic. You must regulate your nervous system. That’s why everything I give you in Code Red is exactly what I did myself. It’s not fun, but it’s necessary.
You either go through this with misery and pain, or you turn it into the most unbelievably transformative experience of your life and come out with far more than you expect.
If you’re suffering daily and not progressing in anything, even in small ways, we need to talk. You should be releasing emotions daily, building new connections, and remembering it’s okay to process and be sad. She’s somewhere out there going through her own struggle too.
Stick to the plan. Use the resources I send you. Remember, the best things in life often happen after experiences like this. I was in so much pain, and I knew the fastest cure was meeting someone hotter and forming a better connection (fixing attachment style takes time, but in the “emergency room” we need CPR). I met women in between who I’ll forever be grateful for, and once again I realized how we put an ex on a pedestal and how rejection creates obsession. Something to think about.
Quick Plan
Breakups and mixed signals are emotionally brutal. It’s normal to feel shock, panic, or even a “nuclear explosion” inside when she says something like, “I’m leaving the country.” Acknowledge that pain to yourself but don’t show her how you feel.
Outward composure is critical. No begging, no pleading, no dramatics. You can feel the pain but you don’t act from it. Every time she sees you, you should look stronger and more grounded than before.
It’s not her, not the breakup. Insecurity, pedestal-thinking, and scarcity thoughts are what sabotage you. Catch and reframe them one by one.
Use the tools inside Code Red exactly as shown. Whatever resets you. This keeps you from spiraling and makes you attractive again.
Keep “Line 2” alive. Some of the hottest women and deepest connections I had I met when I was in the peack of my separation pain. There is a way to it ( knowing how to meet quality women FAST and the whole rules of pickup during breakup).
Follow the communication rules (like the Text Proxy Rule) and the course modules (Code Red, Breakup & Aftermath, Relationship Dynamics). Treat it like CPR in an emergency room.
If you’re suffering daily but making no progress, even tiny steps, reach out to me. The goal is daily release and small wins in health, social life, and mindset.
See this as the hardest but most transformative season of your life. You either crawl through misery or you build a stronger, more attractive, more centered version of yourself. That choice is yours.
There’s no guarantee she’ll come back. But by sticking to the plan, you’ll either win her back or come out with someone even more aligned and a stronger life.