Every message has a direction. The closer to the middle, the more effective. In this example

Hi. Thanks for taking me to that great beer spot. Are you free Thursday evening? I have an invitation to a screening of No Other Choice, and the premise made me think of what you shared about Beijing. I’d love for you to join me.

In this example, the message leans heavily toward pull.

“Thanks,”
“Great cider,”
“Are you free,”
“I’d love…”

All four of these lines are pulling. For her to feel early-stage attraction, you need some push mixed in.

Examples of push:
— Slightly delayed response. For example text her the next day (just for now, until you enter the next phase where there’s more trust and closeness).
— Framing the message without showing full certainty. For example: “Thanks for the great experience the other day. It was very nice meeting you.” This adds uncertainty. Does he want to see me again? Which is one of the six core human needs.

Then wait another two days before reopening. When you do, she’ll appreciate it much more.