You initiate contact. One of five things will happen:

positive reply, neutral reply, negative reply, no reply, or you get blocked.

Based on what happens, we make the next move:

• If positive: send a follow-up message. If the second is also positive, the third message will hint at a meetup next week, then end the conversation.

• If neutral: send one more message, then end the conversation.

• If negative: either don’t reply, or acknowledge and step away for three weeks.

• If blocked: wait three weeks before trying again. If still blocked, we discuss other channels of communication.

It’s important to remember this process won’t be linear. 

She won’t be easy. 

My last breakup took six months to fix. 

The key is: if you’re exhausted because she isn’t giving you what you want right now, don’t blow up and break up—it won’t solve your frustration.

Take your frustration and exhaustion elsewhere.

Absolutely avoid these:

• The guy who just sends the wrong message
  (Follow the instructions and only send the proven openers.)

• The guy in despair
  (I know this is not gonna work. — Whatever energy you put in will come back.)

• The impatient guy
  (Sends a message and keeps checking his phone 100 times an hour.)

• The weak guy
  (I am fucked, there is no way this is gonna work.)

Remember, guys fall into two categories: losers or winners.

The guy who ends up with her is the winner. 

It means he is delusional, positive, and has an “impossible” vision. Just like you once had when you ended up with her.

Send the message and follow the instructions.
The demon, the root of all failure, is within: lack of patience, insecure thoughts, and anxious attachment.

You will win in the end.

Another crucial point: she wants to be with you only if she sees you above her.
Above her means you are not miserable, not attached, not needy. You are strong, non-reactive, positive, and you surprise her with how well you’re doing.

Remember the 6 phases.

You must get your power back.

Watch The Hacks, emotional resilience section.

There’s no way around it: if you burn bridges, you give your spot to the next guy. Hang in there. Be the guy who never goes away—cool, positive, non-reactive, non-needy, no kiss-ass—but always there.

If you are in the waiting period, invest as much time and energy as you can into the videos. That’s what transforms you. Ask me for playlists and audio versions as well so you can listen to them over and over again.