The joy and emotions a woman can bring to your life are unlike anything else, but to have that, you must first understand how "the system" works.
The joy and emotions a woman can bring to your life are unlike anything else, but to have that, you must first understand how "the system" works.
I remembe one of my first clients, a Knicks courtside doctor (well-known in NBA) and a good-looking guy, came to me because his wife cheated on him with their son’s high school teacher, an average-looking guy and alot lower status. She literally downgraded on every level, but why?
This is why:
By default us guys mistaken romantic relationships with women for unconditional love.
For example, a mother would never throw her 8-year-old out of her life, but your wife can.
Romantic relationships are value-based, not unconditional. Taking things seriously and assuming its' gonna be safe forever is just an illusion.
We act like we’ll be here tomorrow, forgetting 150,000 people die daily.
What feels set in stone to you can mean nothing to her after one mistake. It’s not opinion, it’s data.
What does this mean for you?
If you want to stay with the woman you like, you can't just do/say what you feel like doing and get away with it. You have to follow The Protocols™.
While you see her as your twin flame or etenral love, she is wired to continue choosing the most secure man she can get the most from(yes I said it), emotional safety, financial security, love, attention, and all the other survival resources she needs(yes money included).
It’s a survival instinct for her. It turns the whole thing into a transactional relationship.
Is that good or bad? That’s not the point here. It’s just the setup.
Here’s where most inexperienced guys make a tactical mistake: instead of building a strong man-to-woman dynamic and creating emotional safety that attracts and keeps her, they slip into a mother son dynamic and then can’t understand why she leaves.
Her ideal man is emotionally bulletproof, rich, physically strong, and resourceful.While he feels emotions deeply, he never breaks down or stays in the negative. Even under tough circumstances, he doesn’t submit to weakness. Most guys don’t realize that weakness can appear as anger, jealousy, sadness, or anxiety.
While all of these emotions are real and we do feel them, if not handled properly, she will see them as weakness.
There’s a right way to process and deal with emotions—and it’s not by showing them to her.
For example, a rich guy who doesn’t understand this, assumes that if he buys her a yacht, she’ll never leave yet she could easily dump him for a bartender who understands her.
It’s mind-blowing how many men still think they can have a lasting relationship without providing resources or emotional safety, expecting unconditional, motherly love from a woman who isn’t wired to understand their emotions the way a mother would.
If you treat her like your mother instead of how a woman in a romantic relationship wants to be treated, you’ll be eliminated from the setup, and the next guy in line will eat your lunch.
I highly recommend you read about the history of marriage—it had absolutely nothing to do with love. Also, look into the history of the diamond ring in romantic relationships.