When you send a text and it’s her turn to reply, or when you’re waiting for her confirmation for the next meeting, a part of your nervous system activates that craves her response. With every minute that passes, the craving grows stronger until it reaches a point of total loss of control.

This is what I learned when I was in Moscow, long before I understood how our nervous system plays into relationships. This will be one of the most important lessons you ever learn in relationships with women.

If you are in this situation, you need to disarm this part of your system. This is how you do it:

1. If she’s been texting you or seeing you, she’s interested.

2. She doesn’t fully trust you yet. She’s thinking about you, weighing the situation, calibrating, and making sure you’re safe and won’t hurt her.

3. She might genuinely be busy. I personally have over 30 pending WhatsApp replies to get back to at any given time, I’m organized and likely not as hot as your girl. So imagine how it is for her, especially if she's hot. Her phone is full of distractions and noise.

4. She may also not want to appear too available for you.

So when you send that message, your job is simple: act like she doesn’t exist until you hear back. Get busy with your life. We have follow-up sequences in place I can show you.

Remember, she is thinking about you. She’s just being cautious. The part of you that craves her reply is your anxious attachment showing up, and you must regulate it. The moment you recognize and disarm this part of your nervous system, you’ll instantly regain control.