It depends on a few things. First of all, how are you feeling? If you are anxious, desperate for a reply, detached to the outcome, and you don't have any backup, then don't. You're in the middle of the tension phase and she is likely to be cold. That doesn't mean she doesn't want it, but it means you cannot go in if you are not immune.

This is how getting her back works.

• You have a good life on the side. You've got your anxious attachment under control.

• You may be in pain, but you have other women lined up (and 1 solid connection), travel planned, you are meeting people and actively socializing.

• You look good because you have been going to the gym.

• Alcohol and smoking are out of your life and you don't look miserable, sad, fucked, or heavy.

• You know what to say.

• You know you got this.

• You have finished Damage Control, Breakup and Aftermath, and Code Red programs.

• Your confidence is back (the Iron Mind program) and you understand that no matter what the results are, it is just for now.

• If she gives you a big no, it can change in two weeks.

• If she says yes, it also doesn't mean anything permanent at this time.

If you understand and follow the above, then send the message with no stress. I am here.