This is the reason most guys get stuck in confusion and aren’t sure what to do.
We are trapped in a few things. For example, time.
We can't skip 30 min... We have to wait for it to pass.
Another item you are stuck in, is your body.
You cant get out of it but unlike time, you can control it.
Your body is like a child.
By default, it's highly reactive to the environment and needs very strict regulation to get you where you want to be.
The reason individuals feel stuck is because they run on the body's autopilot.
Do this:
When things go wrong, for example she pulls back (whatever triggers negative emotions), instead of reacting and entering the defaul state of terror, stop.
Switch off the autopilot.
For example, when you get the text message that "I don't want to see you anymore."
You can even feel the anxiety and fear running through your body.
Remember this reaction is just an impulse.
It feels like you need to engage, react, reply, or do something.
Instead, wait and remember that your emotions will pass.
The right approach is the formula I’ve always been preaching:
Reset, then Vision → Strategy → Plan → Action
Don’t start with action. Most guys start there.
Reframe the situation, adjust your thoughts and emotions first, then start with vision.
Real life example:
She said it's over.
Reset: Instead of thinking "Yes, it's over, I am cooked," reset to the absolute positive:
Nothing she says means anything.
It's just how she feels now.
She is angry, upset, and hurt.
It's a temporary state.
For the record, every time me or any of my clients got an ex back, this was the case. The reason for failure in this is the repetitive negative loop of thoughts and actions.
Vision: Her emotions will calm, and in a few days/weeks we'll talk again. For someone in her situation, meeting someone new is impossible; it's impossible to rebuild what we have so fast.
Strategy: Wait 2 weeks, then use the text blueprint. Simple, powerful.
Plan it and get to work.
if you dont understand these 2 limitations, every setback will own you.