Never dump your problems, misery, or weaknesses on women, family, or friends.
If you need to let it out, go to a pro, therapist, or someone not emotionally involved. Get it out there. All of it.
Everytime you wanted to do so, remember this photo. This is the status of Yuriy Dolgoruki. I saw it in Moscow and always look at this photo to remind myself of this. It is the symbol of power and strength.
It feels good in the moment and makes you feel close, but it costs you.
People stop feeling safe even if they love you. They start to worry for you.
If it's your woman, if she sees you lost, she can’t relax into you. Attraction needs certainty and direction.
It flips the roles. She becomes the leader, therapist, or parent. That kills attraction fast.
You want to be the source of stability and safety, not the problem.
People are drawn to strength, not emotional individuals.
Find ways to fix your problems yourself, with coach and professional help if needed. Educate yourself.