VALIDATE YOUR MESSAGE WITH THIS CHECKLIST BEFORE YOU SEND IT

Not all rules apply at all times in sensitive conversations. 

1. Are you fully aware of the dynamics between you and her?
   
   

2. Does your message have traces of weakness?

   1. I’m sorry if this is inappropriate (Putting her on a pedestal)

   2. You are such a wonder person (Putting her on a pedestal)

   3. I hope we can be a couple again (Putting her on a pedestal)

   4. I really need you right now (Weak signal)

   5. I am working on myself to be a better man (Weak signal - Reporting to her)

   6. Can you please forgive me?
      
      

3. Can your message be rejected?

   1. Do you want to meet? 

   2. Do you like to see me? 

   3. Are you free?

   4. Do you think we can be a couple?
      
      

4. Is your message hostile? Are you blaming her? Does it telegraph blame / anger / sadness / hate / jealousy / neediness / butthurt

   1. You did this

   2. I hate you 

   3. Fuck you

   4. You’re so broken

   5.  Eat shit you cuntwhore 

   6. I hate your mother

   7. You are just like your mum
      
      

5. Is it passive and feminine like these examples?

   1. What do you think we should do?

   2. Can we please do this

   3. Is it OK if I go? 

   4. Do you mind if I am a little late?

   5. Can we go there

   6. How do you think we should do it?
      
      

6. Are you putting her on a pedestal?

   1. I can never meet anyone like you

   2. You are so special
      
      

7. Are you putting up with bullying?

   1. Oh it’s ok if you want to see him
      
      

8. Are you double texting or rushing it?
   
   

9. Are you writing more than she is?
   
   

10. Are you making the same joke / same persona you have already made?
    
    

11. Are your messages congruent? [Are you holding on to your original frame]?
    If you previously asked her out, and she ignored you, your next message must not start a new thread [or comply with her ignoring you].
    
    

12. Are you taking her too seriously?

    1. Yes but you said this

    2. No, you said that but now you change what you say
       
       

13. Is it needy at all?

    1. I was waiting for your reply
       
       

14. Are you trying to bribe her?

    1. I’ll buy you coffee when we meet
       
       

15. Are you butthurt or frustrated?

    1. Listen, do you wanna meet or no? Wtf

    2. Look, I don't understand you. Do you want to meet or just have small talk?
       
       

16. Are you self-qualifying?

Calibrate her message before you reply. Once you calibrate you can set the intensity of your message based on that.

1. Is she asking you any questions?

2. Is she using any emojis?

3. Length of the message?

4. Any sexual references?

5. Does she give you any personal information?

6. How long does it take her to write to you?

7. Is she making any jokes?

8. Is she using any self-qualifiers?