Most people know how hard it is to start a business from scratch and make a million a year. But when it comes to good relationships, most people underestimate the amount of investment required.

A solid, good relationship like that will require as much focus, attention, time, personal development, finances, and energy.

At least at the beginning to bring her in and get her to trust you and fall in love. Once she’s attached to you, you can reduce the amount of time, energy, and resources you share.

Everything should follow a strategy with a plan.

For example, the phase of finding this person comes with its own protocols. This means investing focused daily time into finding matches. The source is up to you. It can be paid matchmaking sites that charge 20–50k (which you should be lucky to find a legit one), or god-like cold approach skills in target-rich areas, or spending an hour a day hanging out with yoga or Pilates women. Most people underestimate this and swipe a few times or go out on a weekend or cold approach 5 women in a month and expect to hit the jackpot.

Once you meet this person, the disqualification and filtering, that on its own is a skill and comes with a set of rules.

Then the dating phase happens. At this stage, her guards are up and her trust is at the minimum. This phase requires significant attention with calculated time and investment of energy and proper communication.

If things go well, then there will be the transition phase in the relationship, and once that passes, the relationship itself.

The relationship rules, for example, are only designed for that phase.

Here is a link to that (Day 15, video #2 - That is column D (The 12 Relationship Protocols)). Direct link to the video is here.

This process can be quite confusing for most guys because it requires you to be excellent with awareness. Emotional awareness, mindfulness, communication.

Here I want to say I have had clients who have been bartenders and been with 1000+ women in 10 years and still struggled with this, or guys with multiple private jets who lost the woman to someone much lower than them in the food chain, but the other guy walked away with her because he was more experienced and more emotionally intelligent.

It requires you to be confident, leading, soft and hard at the same time, empathic, cool but not cocky, kind and loving but not a pushover. It does need a different type of understanding and control to be able to do this.

It’s like anything else worth having, it won’t happen just because you’re a cool guy or you have a few million, perfect size dick and you're 6.5 ft tall. A broke club promoter can outgame you at the early stage if you’re not on top of your game, or a decade-old relationship can go out the window if you lose your cool. Good relationships are out there, they are rare and require top-notch skills.

They look so happy....why is that?

Because he is extremely sharp, aware, and smart. Excellent at manipulation, but using it only for what’s good for the relationship, without hurting her. Complete control over his emotions. In shape, both physically and mentally, with drive and endless motivation to make it work with the right person.