If you want to stay in control, if you want her to always come back to you, if you want to never get dumped, if you want to reduce the risk of losing her, remember this:

Nothing about her and what she does is a big deal. If she stopped texting, it’s not a big deal. If she sends 1-word messages, it’s not a big deal. If she said it’s over, it’s not a big deal. Nothing is a big deal. Those guys that you see have this “I don’t give a fuck” energy about themselves and nothing shakes them. And those guys who are always at a loss are the guys who care too much and overanalyze and resist what is happening. So remember, nothing is a big deal, because even if she goes and you keep that attitude, you will be the only guy in her life who she can come back to.

If you give meaning to what she does, to her leaving, to her slowing down, you activate your nervous system and start acting sloppy. Remember, nothing is a big deal. 

The more enlightened you are about life, the more experienced you are about how things work, the more you can live by this rule. 

The more you suffer, the less developed you are.

She blocked you? It really isn’t a big deal. There are countless reasons for that. 

I took myself through several agonizing, soul-crushing breakups. I became celibate for a year. I lived in Chiang Rai with monks. I lived a promiscuous life in Moscow and have been through good and bad relationships. And the greatest lesson I can share with you is that nothing is a big deal. 

All these are experiences that are supposed to bring joy and happiness to your life and teach you things. Nothing is worth taking yourself through pain because nothing is a big deal.