This is true for many guys

Then he said...

I associate relationships with demands, pressure, expectations, and emotional labor. I’ve had to over-give and over-perform. I had to manage women's feelings, moods, chaos, needs.

It's exhausting.

My nervous system is tired. I feel like a hostage.

Society validates her irrational behavior. Because she is a woman and is allowed to be emotional and get away with it. If I did the same, I would be punished harshly and labeled as weak and unreliable. This is a double standard.

I'm afraid of losing myself because I have to become someone I am not for her to be satisfied. 

I have to change my schedule every day and do less of what I want and need to do, and instead put all this energy, time, and effort into the relationship just to maintain it and keep her happy. Because otherwise she will feel distant and complain and/or get closer to someone else.

It feels like a hostage situation.