The Fantasy Bond

Most guys fall into this phenomenon.
You meet a woman, and because you are starved for connection, love, sex, and new feminine energy in your life, your mind builds a story that creates intense emotions about her.

As a result, you:

• Create an imaginary love story
• Create an imaginary connection story
• Develop emotional dependency
• Start oversharing
• Build deep attachment very fast

As a consequence, without realizing it, you scare her away. And because women usually don’t want to hurt you, and don’t want the drama of you fighting to keep the relationship, she often chooses the easiest path and simply leaves.

You think she is special and that you have finally found “the one.” What is really happening is that you cannot build deep connections with other attractive women, so you tell yourself stories about this new woman. In reality, she is just another woman, you are just another guy, and this is just another ordinary love.

Remind yourself that if you are an average man, you are likely starved for love and deep connection, and your mind is playing tricks on you.

Instead, parent yourself and your emotions. Regulate them and stay in control.

Remember: anything could end at any second. You are only here for today.

Do not over-attach or tell yourself stories.

Be elegant. Be powerful. Show her a good time.

Offer kindness and empathy without becoming a doormat.