I want to share this because when I talk to guys, I see many are under pressure spend a great deal of the day sad or anxious. 

They feel like they must be doing something, otherwise something is wrong. 

For example: “I must have her next to me to feel good,” “I must do whatever I can to get her back,” “I must go out every weekend to meet someone,” “I must have that thing or that person next to me so I can sleep well.” 

I want to tell you that it’s totally fine, and most of the time actually the right thing, to be on your own. That time is where you build and learn to work your operating system.

First, before you enagge with woman, invest everything yourself. Become emotionally and mentally stable, aware, independent, physically fit, and strong across all key areas, THEN look for a girlfriend or try to get your ex back.

Reason why this is important:

You want to win and for that you need to be strong and resourceful. If you invest in yourself, you become strong. You use your resources to fix your flaws, emotional control, finances, mindset, and physique. You become stronger, richer, more independent, and more self-sufficient.

If you focus on someone else when you're not fully developed or when you are in recovery and build stage(very important), since you have to channel your time, energy, and resources into pursuing that person, by the time you get there, you are weaker because the energy and resources that should have been invested in you are gone.

You are at that point lower status with less resources.

A common example is in ex-back situations. Many men spend their energy on regret, anxiety, and overthinking.... Or another common scenario is guys obsessing over women, relationships, going out to places they don't want to go, staying out late, drinking, and chasing women while no one is there to parent the individual as say "STOP. Now is not the time" That kind of pursuit is heavy and consumes resources.

Here is the priority list:

Priority #1: Health (mental and physical) – Maintain strict discipline around your lifestyle, including food, sleep, and mental and physical care.

Priority #2: Finances, because without money you won't be able to design the relationship the way you want, and you will have fewer options. You will be limited by time and resources. This is a major factor in relationship dynamics. I've seen quite a few men who lost their partner to someone at her workplace simply because both partners had to work long hours, rarely saw each other, and naturally grew closer to colleagues instead. There are also clear benefits when you have the financial freedom to create more flexibility in the relationship.

Priority #3: If priorities 1 and 2 are covered, then, and only then, focus on a relationship. Prepare properly and enter it from a position of strength.