The Thing Guys Think Only Happens to Other Guys

Most men think they’re cool, but they’re weak. They react to most signals and fall apart when she pulls back. They’re over-dependent both about themselves and how to lead a relationship.

If she takes five hours to text, he’s glued to his phone, snapping with "Glad you found your charger" or double-texting to check if she’s mad. When she cancels, he begs for explanations, tries to bribe her with a better date, or throws passive-aggressive jabs. Without even knowing it, he lets her moods become his entire weather system, swinging between desperation and bitterness to hide his hurt.

Women won't always make sense to you. In a matter of fact, most of the times they won't. When you feel that discomfort, catch yourself before you act like a spoiled weak mummy's boy. Remind yourself that her current mood is temporary and your emotions are a broken compass, how you feel and how she feels will 100% of the time shift, stop following them. Fight the urge. Dependency on anything is bad—whether it’s a substance, your phone, or a woman.

If you want to win, remember power wins. Power is in independence, being happy indpendent of her, positive, calm, and busy with your own life. She can be a part of it, but even if she’s not, you should have a lot going on. 

When she goes out, she knows her collection of toys with fully charged batteries is waiting for her at home. She has her yoga retreat and summer trip planned, five guys waiting for her to text them back, her women’s circle waiting for her, her gym buddies lined up, and coffee dates with her friends. She’s excited about starting her new diet and Pilates class and reading her new books.

Meanwhile, all he thinks about is her because he has nothing going on.

Fix your setup.

You can’t win.